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Domestic abuse in Hillingdon Borough
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What is domestic abuse?
Domestic abuse is behaviour from a family member, partner or ex-partner that is controlling, coercive, threatening, violent or abusive, and happens between people aged over 16.It can happen to both men and women, and includes the following types of abuse:
- psychological
- physical
- sexual
- financial
- emotional
As a bystander, family member, colleague or friend you may feel helpless when you know someone is a victim of domestic abuse. Whilst ultimately the victim will need to make the decision to leave the relationship themselves, we encourage you to report your suspicions, either by calling free on 0800 555 111 or by using the link below to our online form here on our website. We will then pass on information to the relevant police force who, with partners, may be able to intervene away from the abuser to check the potential victim is OK.
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How do you know if someone is a victim of domestic abuse?
Warning signs include:- Their partner puts them down in front of other people
- They're constantly worried about making their partner angry
- They make excuses for their partner’s behavior
- Their partner is extremely jealous or possessive
- They have unexplained marks or injuries
- They’ve stopped spending time with friends and family
- They are depressed or anxious, or you notice changes in their personality
- Threatening and intimidating arguments, which may involve violent language or escalate to smashing up the furniture
- Arguments where the partner blames the other for their actions, saying they are “asking for it” or deserve the abuse
- Individuals with bruising or other visible marks, which may have been caused by physical abuse
Domestic abuse doesn’t belong in our city, and you can be the change. Did you see something, but didn’t say anything? You have a second chance to act and stand up for victims of Domestic Abuse.
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If you would like to download our leaflet about domestic abuse, please click here
Get help if you think you may be an abuser
If you are concerned that you or someone you know may be an abuser, there is support available.The Respect telephone number 0808 802 4040 is an anonymous and confidential helpline for men and women who are harming their partners and families. The helpline also takes calls from partners or ex-partners, friends and relatives who are concerned about perpetrators.
A webchat service is available Wednesdays, Thursdays and Fridays from 10am to 11am and from 3pm to 4pm.
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Are you a victim of domestic abuse?
Due to our anonymity guarantee, we can't take information from victims of crime. In an emergency, always call 999. If it’s not an emergency and you don’t want to call the police, contact the 24hr freephone National Domestic Abuse Helpline (run in partnership between Women’s Aid and Refuge) on 0808 2000 247 - available 7 days a week.- Men's advice line is a confidential helpline for men experiencing domestic abuse from a partner or ex-partner (or from other family members).
- Refuge is a UK charity providing specialist support for women and children experiencing domestic abuse.
- Victim Support is an independent charity in England and Wales that provides specialist practical and emotional support to victims and witnesses of crime.
- LGBTQ+ domestic abuse victims can contact the Galop Domestic Abuse helpline on 0800 999 5428.
- Find out about the help available from Hillingdon Council on their website's domestic abuse page.
Nothing to report?
Visit Woman's Aid or Refuge to learn more practical ways you can help someone you may be worried about.You can also volunteer with Crimestoppers to raise awareness of our unique crime reporting service in your community.
